Relational
What if closeness requires less merging, not more?
Most people think a great relationship means finishing each other's sentences and agreeing on everything. Schnarch says that kind of fusion actually kills desire.
Differentiation is your ability to maintain your sense of self when you are emotionally and physically close to others.— David Schnarch
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David Schnarch was a clinical psychologist and author of Passionate Marriage, known for his groundbreaking work on differentiation and sexual desire in long-term relationships.
Based on David Schnarch — Passionate Marriage, summarised and reframed by Insights.
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