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The Secret Plea Behind Avoidance

When someone pulls away just as things get close, it isn’t proof they don’t care. It’s often a paradoxical plea: I need you… but I’m terrified to need you. Alain de Botton reminds us that avoidance is less rejection than a disguised form of longing.

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Philosopher of Everyday Life

Alain de Botton is a Swiss-born British philosopher and author known for making philosophy accessible through his books and talks. He founded The School of Life, an organization dedicated to emotional education. His works, including 'Essays in Love' and 'The Course of Love', delve into the complexities of modern relationships.

Based on How Avoidant People Test Your Love | Alain de Botton, summarised and reframed by Insights.

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