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Why wanting someone and having them feel like opposites

Here's something counterintuitive about wanting someone: desire requires distance. You can't long for something you already have in your hands. The closer you get to someone, the harder it becomes to want them the way you did at the start.

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Intimacy & Desire Expert

Michaela Boehm is a relationship and intimacy expert who teaches about desire, polarity, and the tension between closeness and wanting in long-term partnerships.

Based on Michaela Boehm on Desire, Polarity & Intimacy, summarised and reframed by Insights.

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