Relational
What if foreplay is the main event?
There's a common assumption baked into how sex "should" go: kissing, then foreplay, then intercourse as the finale. Kerner argues this sequence is built around one person's finish line, and it leaves a lot of people behind.
Intercourse is not the most reliable means of generating the clitoral stimulation necessary for orgasm.— Ian Kerner
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The thinker
Sex Therapist & Author
Ian Kerner is a licensed psychotherapist and sexuality counselor, best known for his book She Comes First, which reframes how partners think about sexual intimacy.
Based on Ian Kerner: She Comes First — Talks at Google, summarised and reframed by Insights.
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