When Silence Becomes Punishment
Conflict is hard. In many relationships, silence becomes a go-to—mistaken for peace, or a defensive pause. Arthur C. Brooks warns us: imposed silence—even when intended to soothe—is often used as a push away. It’s not neutral—it is relational aggression riding quietly on the back of discomfort and unmet needs.
Being ignored initially provokes reflexive anger and sadness, followed by reflection on the motives and meaning of the treatment. But when persistent over time, the silent treatment can cause resignation—not the resignation of being reconciled with a situation but a miserable state of alienation, hopelessness, and depression.— Arthur C. Brooks
Arthur C. Brooks is a Harvard professor, bestselling author, and social scientist focused on the art and science of happiness. His research uniquely blends economics, neuroscience, and philosophy to help people cultivate a more meaningful life, especially in the second half of their careers.
Based on Arthur Brooks on Conflict and Connection — How to Build a Happy Life, summarised and reframed by Insights.
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