Psychological
What if being kind to yourself isn't letting yourself off the hook?
A common belief: if you're too easy on yourself after a mistake, you'll just keep making it. So you beat yourself up as motivation. But Neff's research shows the opposite. Self-criticism triggers a threat response in your body. It floods you with cortisol and shuts down the part of your brain that learns and adapts.
Self-compassion is not about letting yourself get away with anything. It's about caring enough to do what's healthy for you.— Kristin Neff
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The thinker
Pioneer of Self-Compassion Research
Kristin Neff is an associate professor of educational psychology at the University of Texas at Austin and one of the leading researchers on self-compassion.
Based on The Space Between Self-Esteem and Self Compassion: Kristin Neff at TEDxCentennialParkWomen, summarised and reframed by Insights.
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