Relational
What if your partner isn't the problem?
When a partner says something that stings, the reaction often fires before the thinking brain catches up. The older, faster parts of the brain scan for danger. And sometimes they find threats that aren't really there.
We are all difficult. The question is whether we can find someone whose difficulties we can manage, and who can manage ours.— Stan Tatkin
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The thinker
Couples Therapist & Neuroscientist
Stan Tatkin is a clinician and researcher who developed the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), drawing on neuroscience and attachment theory.
Based on Relationships Are Hard, But Why? — Stan Tatkin TEDx, summarised and reframed by Insights.
Part of these journeys
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