Relational
What if love isn't a feeling but a choice you keep making?
Desire, attachment, comfort, habit. People say "I love you" while doing things that cause real harm. bell hooks noticed something simple but unsettling: we use the word love without ever defining it. And that vagueness lets us get away with a lot.
To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients: care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication.— bell hooks, *All About Love*
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The thinker
Cultural Critic & Love Theorist
bell hooks (1952–2021) was an American author, professor, and social critic whose work explored how love, race, gender, and power intersect in everyday life.
Based on bell hooks — All About Love: New Visions, summarised and reframed by Insights.
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